To be honest with you, I still see it all the time. I’ll have something really amazing happen in my business world, and the media has so many times given credit to Jason, which has nothing to do with the listing that I did. He is the broker, but he literally hasn’t even picked up a phone call. And I did so much work on it. It’s happened so many times, it’s my pet peeve. It’s not his fault, but the media can’t help themselves… You just naturally give the credit to a man.
So I get it, I get a bad rep sometimes for being a little too mouthy… I just think we need, as women, to get a little bit louder.
You’ve used social media to amplify conversations around gender identity as well as your own journey with your sexuality – why was that important to you to discuss that with your followers?
Discussing topics like that can be very divisive, but I do feel like it’s one of those things that if you don’t stand for anything, you’ll fall for anything. I just feel like I was given this platform for a reason, and I don’t want to waste it. Those topics, when I do approach them, I try as hard as I can to not be divisive, so that people won’t be turned off immediately. Like, let’s have a conversation, if possible, you know?
The way that I entered the show [Selling Sunset], there’s people that follow me who are very Republican… So if these are your values, how would you support a certified rapist, felon, you know what I mean? So I think there’s just a disconnect… It really feels like a cult following at this point.
Being on a reality TV show means going through your own personal pain in the public eye – how have you found that?
This whole process has been a learning experience and journey. At first, it was really hard… I think now, being in it and having shared so much, I wouldn’t change it. I like feeling like, ‘this is me, the good, bad and the ugly.’
Unknowingly to me, this was my journey. I’ve embraced it. I didn’t know this is going to be my journey, but I think it was all meant to be…Sometimes those low moments are what people identify you with and find strength with. So it helps when you know that all of that pain, you can put purpose behind it.
What are the most important things you do to take care of your mental wellbeing?
I’m very lucky to have an amazing partner who I feel like always grounds me, an amazing family who does the same. And then outside of that, I hit your Selfridge’s the other day, had a little retail therapy. I love that store. So it’s like a mix of Chicken Soup for the Soul type moments with your friends and family. But then also sometimes you need to buy a dress to make yourself feel better.
Or you want to give back maybe right now we’re dealing with the fires in LA. I’ve been working with a lot of families to help find them housing. Of course, you’re helping, but it also just makes you feel good, because it makes you feel like the skills you have can really help in a time of need.
The Traitors US is available to stream now on BBC iPlayer.
